Surprise! It's a blog about wedding planning - who saw that coming?!
It's stressful! who knew?
Basically, here's an outlet of all my stressing towards trying to plan a wedding and get a University degree at the same time and hopefully a couple tips to help anyone else out there trying their best:
1. I have no idea what I am doing, but that's okay!
Funnily enough, I only plan on getting married once. And since its my first time, I have no clue what I'm doing. In fact, I didn't know where to begin. I thought I just had to start a Pinterest board called "Wedding" and it would magically plan itself - not quite. But step 1 is to know that it's okay to not know what you're doing. The best why to find out where to start though, is to talk to everyone you know that had some kind of wedding. From big fat greek wedding to eloping to Hawaii, talk to everyone and start working out where your priorities lie.
2. Somehow everything I am doing, I'm it doing wrong, but that's also okay!
Jack and I decided that the only thing we really knew we wanted for our wedding was to be surrounded by our families. He and I both come from fairly big families so that set into motion the type of wedding it had to be to fit everyone in, feed them all and provide a nice night for everyone. Thus the catchphrase of our wedding emerged: "It's for everyone else" - which is fine, but a key thing to remember with that top priority - not everyone is going to be happy, someone will complain about something - but that's okay! I'm not perfect and my wedding won't be "perfect" for sure. So just remember that no matter how much planning and organising you do, something (or maybe lots of things) will go wrong - remain calm.
3. Get organised - seriously organised.
There are so many moving parts to the planning of a wedding and I, like most people, don't have the money to hire someone to do it all for me. So, get a folder, a notebook, a diary and a calendar to set yourself up for keeping track of what the hell is going on, because between the dress fittings, tasting days and venue visits, you'll lose track quickly.
The best organisation tool introduced into my life is Bridebook.com. They have an app that has a really easy checklist of everything you need to do and when. As a total novice of this type of planning, Bridebook has made it so much easier. Not sponsored - it's a great app.
Bonus tip - give your maid of honour, mum or fiancé the schedule too so they can chip in and help throughout, you'll need it. If they download the app too you can share the same account and see your progress and add any ideas and guests - all in one place.
4. Manage your time well
This is the part that I need to be careful about the most. Although I don't have a job at the moment, I am currently in my third year of uni and trying to finish my degree in the next couple of months. Managing my time well is so important that I don't get overwhelmed with wedding stuff and prioritise that instead of my degree. I try to keep wedding planning to the weekends (mainly Saturdays if possible) and keep my "work" separate. I know that's how I work best so that works for me but find what's most effective time keeping for you!
5. Remember the bigger picture
The whole point of all this stress and planning is to get married - not to have the perfect wedding for Instagram. So, remind yourself and your fiancé of why you're doing it. Keep going on dates, if you can once a week, and not talk about the wedding the whole time! Go out and let off some steam every once in a while or it will consume your life. Remind yourselves that after the wedding blows over, you get to spend the rest of your life with your husband/wife, and (hopefully) your best friend - in the scheme of things, the wedding is one of many great days to come.
That ended kind of cheesy but hopefully that helped someone! Let me know if you have any questions or any tips of your own to help me! Please.